I sat on my little thinking chair with a cup of coffee and the latest playboy magazine…on the side table….and well….i thought…I thought and I thought and finally I decided …that I won’t bore you with this bit….So onwards…
A very interesting train of thought is the trains of thought and obsessions of people…Yeah...Thinking about thinking about thinking…ad nauseam… is interesting…(yeah….despite the ad nauseam…)..And I realized...Almost everything that most(wink!)guys my age would discuss would be something related to girls…Why girls pay attention to their toilette and why they gossip or “what the f*&% does she see in him??..” or even long discussions delving into the female psyche regarding their straightlacedness or their superiority, inferiority or equality to men including the significance of Adam’s rib being used to create Eve…..everything including the most silly and mundane conversations to the long raging debates on human psychology and how oppression against women led to such and such a thing……is all related to women…
I wonder what we would discuss if humans develop into the perfect being who would be a hermaphrodite (the final evolved form would be a single entity who would need to reproduce… (or not ??)Duh…whatever…)
So..a few questions…why this unhealthy interest ??...is it even unhealthy??(No...)Is it because I’m in IIT? (Some would be inclined to agree so as to stop reading this here …and some because they genuinely believe it….!!)What intrigues me is that if we have the mysterious Y chromosome how come it’s they who are mysterious…(cause I’ve never read about Men being hard to understand…and I’ve read my share of female authors..)The deep intellectually type men delve(try at the very least) into the female psyche to deduce why they do what they do….The more romantic ones dream about meeting (or marrying if well met !!) their soul mate…and those in between postulate the perfect blend of personality traits and talents(complements and similarities…) that it takes to get …. A mixture of Romeo Juliet and the Curie couple…(they are IITians after all)…So What Ho ?? Why..?? Politics…Life after death…Ideologies of different writers…Computer games…Movies…Music etc…With all this available why does the conversation eventually swing( or maybe is swung ??) towards La femme ..?
Is it because…we are all romantics at heart (Rejoice…girls !!!) or is it simply because it is the most challenging talk at hand….I think both…most people are obsessed with finding and recognizing the right girl…many I know…find them intriguing…and some (as will always be the case…) belong to both the categories….
One of the hottest topics on the block is ‘What girls look for in guys’(and very often..’And then…having found it why do they settle for 50th best…’(Studio laughter….(egomaniacal remember…))).Also one thing that puzzles me is how some smart guys prefer the not so sharp girls ( and vice versa of course) and some of the most finicky ones (in the discussion) fall for the Plainest Janes that could be…One of my choice theories that I first called the ‘wave theory of love’…(but then changed it to ‘the wave theory of human relations’ so as to not appear to be so obsessed with luuuuurve(I love extrapolation…wait a bit….luuurve…))
The theory suggests that each human being has an amplitude and a frequency associated with her/him(him/her for equality of sexes ..).The amplitude represents all the observable characteristics like looks , smarts, vital stats(hehe) and any other talents and skills…The frequency however is unknown to human kind…I can again suggest that this comprises whatever complexes and biases one has..(For eg. A guy with an Oedipus complex would love a girl who reminds him of his Mother) as also some unpredictable irrational elements that makes love irrational… Ordinarily one likes a person because of his ginormous amplitude… but if the frequencies are close in magnitude….magic…..irrational love…caused by a resonance!! (This explains all the statements about being on the same wavelength as wavelength is =frequency inverse (duh!!))…
In such a case the amplitude of the other person would be equal to the sum of the 2 amplitudes…making it gigantic…. (Sweet theory, huh!)…..So there it is…Liking…defined by large amplitudes….and ….and Love defined by resonance….So the perfect couple would be two amazingly good looking, talented and smart individuals who are on the same wavelength…yes….we all would want that….
As my mother says regarding my craving for 2 servings of cheesecake…
Keep wanting …
P.S. I have met people willing to discuss other topics and we have shitloads of fun doing that…but the vast majority….
P.P.S. The flaw in my theory is that all love has to be bilateral (or the chick/stud has met like the smartest most talented and most handsome guy/girl in the world…assuming all amplitudes are at least of the same order ..)(of course I cant help an ordinary person falling in love with superman(or for that matter with matt damon (oooooooh I love him…!!))in which case an ordinary guy would have a fight on his hands despite the summing of amplitudes …
All love isn’t bilateral…but hey….the theory was good reading material at least..
P.P.P.S. Someone must have thought of this before…cause the statement about being on the same wavelength has been around for ages…but I would love to think I came first( no pun intended… !!!)
Enjoy…
And comment…
good shit man!!!! your post, superpost, and super super post etc were more amusing that the headers! and yes, nice choice of topic. and yes, thanks for mentioning me in the post script :D
ReplyDeleteOnly an IITian could have come up with something like this......hehehe
ReplyDeleteWas just wondering though, (coz i've often been told that I have a very stiff and difficult to live up to criteria when it comes to the opposite sex), whether love or liking or just finding someone you think is best for you, can really be understood by any rational means (like for instance thru' a theory like this). I don't really agree with the 'Love is blind' theory at all but i guess there must be something there, that cannot really be explained to make people want to be with one another.Just thinking out loud.......
-Ms. Lynette
personally i feel it can be understood..i believe in my theory to a great extent...cause it says that love cannot be analysed after a certain point..the mysterious frequency that is...
ReplyDeletei believe u felt this theory could apply to non sexual/romantic relationships as well.psycho terms attachment to any object--living or non living cathexis aka instant liking/attraction what have you. the reasons for these may be mysterious indeed but once you come to lasting relationships a certain degree of commitment is required. think of your school friends think of marraiges among family members whether lasting or otherwise
ReplyDeletealso love as you have used it applies to attractions which may be momentary esp the great hormonal trrap that nature sets up for perpetuation of the species which is fine as it goes hand in hand with commitment
ReplyDeleterecommended reading--the road less travelled--M Scott Peck
ReplyDelete1)I have not talked about commitment. I was only trying to rationalize the very momentary attraction you speak off.My theory was inspired by and explains the concept of love at first sight primarily...i just extrapolated it to other stuff and i think it applies as far as first impressions go....
ReplyDelete2) Lay off mom !
3)Seriously...
dis was gud reading material(reminded me of kota rooftop discussions!)
ReplyDeletebut i think(suggesting) there must b another fundamental unit(apart from amplitude frequency/wavelength)to explain the exceptions....
eg.attraction b/w 2 individuals where either/both have low amplitude n different frequency...
i.e. 2 explain the so called BLINDNESS of love.
dude i guess both of us r in love wid Matt damon!
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ReplyDeletedude... frequency is what explains why love is blind....
i haven't explained what it is because....u can't know what it is...
so 2 people who fall in love with each other at first sight are resonating...that's just what i think...
since uve gone technical id like to add..
ReplyDeleteur theory fails to account for the phase difference that might exist between the waveforms representing ur coherent characters!amplitudes would subtract in case of a destructive interference wherein as per your theory they would love each other without liking..sounds kinda weird unlike the reverse..
i must say it was a good reading..
why dont you write down about your other theories also or am i just a privileged one??
btw uve unknowingly mentioned me too smwer!!
Interesting...On the topic of phase difference i would like to say that i find it odd that each person's wave must begin somewhere in time...Cause in that case your age would matter which is rather illogical therefore this frequency i speak about must be with respect to some other parameter which should be a linear uni directional one.. and love with out liking is impossible... love is merely liking in the case of resonance....so these people would feel an intense hatred towards each other immediately...which again i can't imagine...so i guess...i'll have tothink...tell me if u get something
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