LOVE IV: Someone pleease quantify this !!

I really really really wanted to write something today..on the first...The beginning of a new year marking....a new era in my life...of productivity... grindstones and facial protuberances that have a twin set of apertures and from which disgusting fluids may be secreted (by some) at will.....Of love(i hope) and hope(if nothing else !)....Basically..You get the idea..New year's resolution blah blah yak yak....

MS:I'm serious about this stuff...but hey..it makes for lousy reading !!

Actually..I thought bout a lot of different topics to write about..I thought about new year's resolutions...and then about dance and how it is thrust upon people who may not necessarily like it, even though the general populace does....and then go on to how today's world is all about one's impression on others and how the basic reasons for a lot of uncomfortable customs are not examined but ascribe them all to 'propriety'...and how that sucks....But then i thought another sarcasm dripping tirade would totally ruin my happyboy image...so i reined myself in and ventured once more,as i have previously on 3 other occasions into the region of mystery, the cave of alladin...Love and other natural 'calamities' (My image !!)..Now what i started thinking about was Commitment..And for those that thought that my previous post in this vein was 'gay' and all...well this is kind of a critique or rather....a study of motives and reasons....So here goes nothing...


I talked about commitment as necessary, post marriage...That it is essential for a normal, healthy life....Now, i think that there are some people who would have agreed with me without question and others, who would have thought that some ultra conservatives had brainwashed me...I have heard staunch proponents of both arguments...I have a surprisingly ( i think) conservative view but ..again..it's just a totally irrational view..So i thought.. lemme actually look at the how , why and most importantly the gray areas...So ..uhh..Ok..sorry..lost track of what i was going to say for a minute..

Marriage as i deduced ( and i think rightly so) arose from love..People were in love and wanted to formalise it ...legalise it..Me personally; i think it's a great idea so..i guess I'll work with that...Now the main part...the point of contention...is...Does love last forever....? Does it happen only once ? and the like..
Once one gets into a marriage (i know it sounds very ..'not romantic'..but that's just your perception..I'm perfectly unbiased(yeaaaah right...))monogamy is prescribed as a prophylactic to STD's....But then again...the basic premise that the institution of marriage is based upon...is that the two married people love each other...and if that itself is not true...well marriage in it's original, pure form( as i have deduced/assumed)...loses it's meaning...and hence i feel must be dissolved...However...even more basic is the question 'Does love last forever ?' and it's supplementary 'Does love happen only once?' ..Now..Again..here...a lot of guesses will have to be made....for these questions can only be answered by statistics(something..that i like to use in my arguments but have not too much faith in !)..I think that.. love ..as is the loved..is very clearly a geographically influenced phenomenon...There are a lot of people one may like a lot or rather..could like a lot ....but they will be scattered over the world...of course..one's local cultural influences will cause a lot of these people to be nearby ...( of course a complete antipathy towards one's birth-culture( which is very possible) would have the opposite effect.... but frankly there would be others with the same feelings..) Now...if one were to zoom out and view one's life's timeline..we would ( or could) meet people who we connect with at different stages of our life....Which of these people is the most 'in tune' with us..is purely a matter of luck...So first of all ...marriage must be thought out carefully..because no matter how much you love someone...you should keep in mind the fact that you may very well meet someone..even more 'endowed with endearing qualities'(:P)later in one's life...
I have seen happily married couples who are very similar and others who are very dissimilar...Again ...which pairing suits whom better is hard to say..but i would guess that..there would be a golden ratio of similarities and dissimilarities to make the perfect couple (since I'm quantifying similarities here one can safely assume this is all completely hypothetical...:D)So what i would perceive as a similarity dominated couple or a dissimilarity dominated couple would probably be slight disturbances to either side of the golden mean...
Now...how can one judge how perfect one's current pairing is and how likely is the chance of her/him meeting someone even better suited to him..I don't know..But the most obvious solution...that i can see (and I'm sure you can)..that of never committing ...and just going around taking free samples...(hmm..raspberry crush..and uhh....sunshine bonanza...and...mochalicious ..maybe i'll try cashew nut de leche...!!(Drool drool!))...be warned that it would be clearly unscrupulous and immoral to lick the spoon (Wink wink !)Again..to some this may seem like a perfect solution...but i think that..marriage and child rearing would be an essential part of a good life..so ...yeah..i'd have the strawberry shortcake flavour... (a Baskin robbins flavour of the month(Boohoo)...that i..seriously...fell in love with..(Bastards !))
In the case of the marriage decision..i think most couples rely ...at least a bit on the magic part of it..if they haven't been in other relationships before..then the magic part is very clear and easy...you have no standard to compare it with....so it's awesome...no matter what...in the other case..i think there's some other factor forcing marriage sometimes and in others..( maybe) there is the perception of a greater magic...Now..imagine that one (or both) of the participants in a marriage realises after X years of marriage...that it isn't working out...Should one..just get up and leave....I don't think so..I think ...that by marrying him/her... you have signed a covenant....you have made certain commitments and that it should not be too easy for you to just forgot about that..One goood idea woudl be to write down one's lovey dovey promises and 'I'll throw a lasso around the moon' isms...so that ...that magic may be recreated..so that at least ...one will remember that ...yes there was something...Maybe there still is...

P.S.: Today's world spawns a lot of relationships that are mere reactions to a fad...'Everyone does it..so will I'.. These commitments even, according to me should be more serious and better thought out than they are..

P.P.S.:People are so blinded by 'love' that they don't realise that when they say their wedding vows...they're supposed to mean them and think about them...before saying yes..like every promise...

P.P.P.S.:Of course..if one considers the fact that ....even marriage is just a bunch of rules in a game ( a sub game of sorts to life !)...and that some people manipulate those rules for some distant advantage...then yeah...some of those moves may well be really smart....

P.P.P.P.S.:Once again ..I couldn't help jacking up the sarcasm ..

P.P.P.P.P.S.:The probablity bit is really stupid..i mean..what if i'm thinking so much and making so many hypothetical comparisons that i will find her (oops) only when i'm 50 (PROSTATE !!)

Kota Senti

I was looking at some old pics today....Pics i had clicked in a galaxy far far away a long long time ago...or so it felt(Who am i kidding !!)....I was looking at pics of my stay in kota...Actually ..i had taken my camera there only in the last 2 months ...but the pics took me back...like some old greying 'Nam veteran...I leant back... staring at a point in the distance, transported back...Arriving in kota for the first time...watching my parents' train leave...Scrinching up my face and sniffing loudly...crying myself to sleep, thanking god(and my parents !) that i had a single room....

Tosh....Actually...I spent that first night playing cards...sleeping at 3 if i remember correctly...I remember the first words i said after my parents left...I called up a friend and said " Oye mere dad mom gaye..chal gaandmasti karte hain...!!"
Not to put up some false show of 'big boy' bravado...but i don't think i ever felt alone in my whole stay in kota....I remember many anxious juniors and even more anxious parents coming to me for kota-wisdom later and asking me " What problems did you face?" and me replying ...frowning in concentration.."Uhh...Problems..Nope..can't think of any!!" And y'know..it was true..I took to kota like a fish to water...Oh..the crazy things we did there....I remember this one time..i had gone to the mess wearing this, Quoting my mom.., 'disgusting' sleeveless 'shirt' and a revolting pair of 'shorts'..when one of the mess workers droppped a whole big serving bowl of daal on me..It was thick dal..OH..thick and heavily spiced...And wet....had the texture of vomit....I remember soaking it in a tub and nearly barfing every time i saw that stuff floating around...Needless to say..my mother was over the moon...On her next visit i got an i-pod....

Another barfable incident was my house mate Anup scraping out utensils which had contained chicken (had....) about a month ago...from a foot away...Oh...yeah those were the days yaar..Like the time after marathon watching movies ( 4 i think) all night..me and my house mate Abhisek returned..He was taking a leak while holding our house keys in his mouth ...when...yeah...he yawned....Neither of us remembered the last time we had used the toilet.....for..ahem... the big job ( i found this site with a delightful list of euphemisms..http://www.thechurning.com/2005/10/19/final-round-of-shit-euphemisms/) But we held our noses and fished the keys out with our kitchen tongs...(Needless to say ..we stopped making toast and maggi became a staple..!!)and washed them thoroughly with a hosepipe and the tongs with a soaped up rag.....The keychain ..which was the letter 'S' had to go...It was leather you see....

We had a lot of crazy philosophical talks up there on the terrace...ranging from...Why are we here ? ... somewhere, two hot, smart and funny girls are discussing that 2 guys (like us...!) are discussing that two boys( funny how picky we were... even in our daydreams) are... ad infinitum...
There was this one time that we had this crazy idea...we decided that we would let our freezer get clogged up with ice and not thaw it and then rip out slabs of ice and smash them on the floor..Abhisek's mother had come to visit but I was like a man with a mission...i had to do it..SO i called abhisek innocently as if to ask him about some question i was solving but pointing to the fridge...We pulled out a huge..and i mean big ..gigantic... e-normous slab of ice....grinning devilishly at each other ...we hefted it once...twice and smashed it to the ground...It broke into many small pieces (and some big ones...YAAY !!) with a sound like a pistol shot...Man..that was fun..i mean..i know i'm getting cliched here... but..yeah...it WAS fun...and you won't know what i'm talking about till you've smashed some ice yourselves...
I could go on and on..but..i have to sleep....forget it yaar..I can't help it..i'd probably chuckle to myself for an hour before i fell asleep..I'll go on a teeny weeny bit longer..Like the time The lights went off in the middle of the Loo( yesss..I'm talking bout the dusty winds that we learnt about in tenth standard geography...) and all of us rushed out onto the street..One friend of mine..Who had this habit of roaming about in his room bare chested ran out without putting anything on.. and walked for nearly a mile without realising this ...(it was pitch black) Then ..to make matters worse...a fat friend gave him his shirt as he himself was wearing a vest underneath..which let me tell you was not a pretty sight when the lights cam on.... Or that time when..we all gathered in my room to play cards with my small stereo blaring greenday till it was hoarse..My landlord heard the 'noise' and decided to check on me....He knocked on the door upon which we rushed hither thither...with one of us hitting the lights and another the stereo(Dumb Dumb Dumb...)...some lying down on the bed and the last one: Avi...crouching behind my bed....I opened the door..bleary eyed and said..kya hua uncle..He incredulously asked me..(Duh..the lights and music and sounds of merrymaking were LOUD a second ago) "Kya chal raha hai bete ?"All my 'sleeping' friends 'got up' and started looking at my landlord as if surprised..I said.."Uncle ..ye yahaan padhne aaye hain.."....Up popped avi still holding his cards..fanned out and arranged for easy accessiblity saying.." Haan uncle..Schrodinger's equation bahut tough hai.." That stiffled laughter must have reduced my lifespan by an hour atleast but i would trade a year just to see everyone looking at Avi with ..a look on their faces that i can't describe without grinning widely even now....

A lot of good friends,304( a card game..that i swear...can be played for days on end),cyber cafe nightouts,movies, kilos (seriously) of Ratlami sev bought at the wholesale rate and ch***iyaaps : only 99 photographs...Seems unfair na...


PS:Oh..The joy....

PPS:Abhisek Amit Anup Ardhendu Avi Ayush Rajat Manav Mukul Nikhil Prateek Rohan Siddharth Tapan Tarun Tejas ...THANK YOU !!

PPPS:If i have missed anyone out...SORRY and THANK YOU !!!

PPPPS:I must have an eye infection...Better go wash them...

PPPPPS: OOH and Pyaaj ki kachaudi..

PPPPPPS: Junta please add items....